Friends, Family, or Strangers: Who Reads Your Blog?

During a dinner the other night, I mentioned to my husband that I wrote a blog post about his love of comic books and told him he should check it out.  In return, I received a tepid, noncommittal reply.  I didn’t press the subject but quietly harrumphed in a friendly show of passive-aggression.

Since when did my hubby stop supporting my blogging obsession? (Answer: About when most of my other family and friends did–when I stopped life blogging and started book blogging.)  I think my family and real-life friends read my life blog on a semi-regular basis as a way of keeping up me.  Also, there was the added bonus of never knowing when one of them would make a cameo appearance in a post.

These days, 98% of the people reading Book, Line, and Sinker are friends I’ve never met in person (and they may be the luckier for that!).   My mom drops in from time to time, one of my cousins is a semi-regular reader, and two or three other friends check in sporadically, but the rest of my family and friends aren’t on board.

Maybe blogging exclusively about books is too niche for some of my family and friends, or maybe they just don’t have the hours to while away on the internet that I do.

Am I a complete dork for feeling a bit bummed that my family and friends aren’t hanging on my every blogging word?  (This is a rhetorical question.)   Just tell me I’m not alone with these feelings–lie if you must!!

26 Comments

  • At 2010.08.01 23:44, Lisa said:

    I’ve got quite a few family members and friends that read my blog although I don’t think it’s on a regular basis and they almost never leave comments. But by far and away the majority of the people that read my blog are people I’ve never met–I hesitate to say strangers since I feel like I know so many of them now!
    .-= Lisa´s last blog ..Thrity Thursdays or The Space Between Us Readalong =-.

    • At 2010.08.02 00:40, Jess - A Book Hoarder said:

      Although my husband hasn’t completely given up on reading my blog I feel your pain on the family and friends having other things to do with their time. It seems like more often than not, when I mention my blog to someone who I KNOW I have talked about it with previously, the most common response is “oh you have a blog” and at best I get “yeah I think I remember something about that.” I mean come on, isn’t it supposed to be all about me?
      .-= Jess – A Book Hoarder´s last blog ..My LibraryThe Other One =-.

      • At 2010.08.02 11:27, Natalie said:

        lol! i know that i felt like such a whiner writing this post but if any of my family or friends had blogs, i would read them. 🙂

      • At 2010.08.02 03:54, bybee said:

        Absolutely NO ONE in my fam reads my blog. Maybe 5% of my friends do. Everyone else is a virtual friend or stranger. Actually, I’m lucky that anyone reads me.
        .-= bybee´s last blog ..June- 2010 Reviews and Comments =-.

        • At 2010.08.02 09:55, rhapsodyinbooks said:

          None of my family reads my blog! I’m with bybee on this – only virtual friends and strangers whom I feel lucky to have stop by from time to time!
          .-= rhapsodyinbooks´s last blog ..Review of “Last Snow” by Eric Van Lustbader =-.

          • At 2010.08.02 10:44, Donna said:

            Not a lot of family reads my blog either. But actually I understand that – it’s all about books and if they aren’t big readers, then there’s not much for them there. My husband reads my blog posts before I post though – just as an editor – to tell me if there are any big mistakes!
            .-= Donna´s last blog ..Mailbox Monday =-.

            • At 2010.08.02 11:46, Molly said:

              I know that my husband and eldest read my blog fairly regularly; I think a couple of friends read it occasionally. But I am ok with this. I think it helps me to feel free to write what is on my mind, rather than worrying about being misunderstood by family members.

              I took your comment to heart and tried to change my comment settings. I am not sure that this will help you — but I hope so 🙂 Thank you for bringing it to my attention.
              .-= Molly´s last blog ..TSS- The First of August =-.

              • At 2010.08.02 13:42, nat @book, line, and sinker said:

                thanks so much!!! you did it and it’s wonderful. blogger is a bit quirky for those of us self-hosting our blogs. if you check off the ‘name/url’ option, it makes life a bit easier for us to leave comments. 🙂 thanks for adding it.

              • At 2010.08.02 11:47, Care said:

                I don’t think my hub has ever read a my blog and it’s usually the page that is open when when/if he sits down to look up something else.
                I even started my blog as a place for my family to talk about books and still they don’t visit. ALthough, it does creep my out when my mom will call and casually reference something I wrote about online. I forget that they do know about it…
                .-= Care´s last blog ..Fingersmith Update &amp Reminder =-.

                • At 2010.08.02 12:39, dw said:

                  no one from my family reads my blog and i’m pretty sure everyone that does read it is a virtual friend or stranger. i don’t really blame them though because most of them don’t know that i blog. i mentioned my blog to a few of my friends, but they weren’t jumping with excitement over it and i didn’t press the issue.

                  personally for me, i like it better that way. at least when my friends and family make cameos, i can feel safe knowing that they aren’t going to see it.

                  • At 2010.08.02 13:33, bermudaonion (Kathy) said:

                    You’re not alone. My real life friends and family rarely read my blog, but I will have to say that my husband’s my biggest supporter.

                    • At 2010.08.02 13:34, connie said:

                      hahahaha…don’t feel alone…I think everyone has bailed on me 🙂
                      I do read your book recommendations, you always write interesting reviews…I don’t always comment and I still check your “life” blog :

                      At least here you have a theme…I am all over the place (the same as my life)
                      .-= connie´s last blog ..Flashback Friday – Some Days a Diamond- Some Days a Stone! =-.

                      • At 2010.08.02 15:17, Jen - Devourer of Books said:

                        My mom and sister read regularly, but my husband hardly reads at all. A surprising amount of other family (and much of my husband’s family) actually reads it too, but mostly through the links that go up on Facebook.
                        .-= Jen – Devourer of Books´s last blog ..The Red Queen by Philippa Gregory – Book Review =-.

                        • At 2010.08.02 18:19, Alita said:

                          My mom reads my book blog fairly regularly and hubby stops by once in a while (less than he used to), but I think that’s about it for people I know. You are definitely not alone! I sometimes wish that more of my friends and family would read it more regularly because it’s become such a big part of my life.

                          I recently started a photo/personal blog and let my family know about it. I know that some of them visit it, but I have no idea who because they don’t leave comments! I’ve become so spoiled by the book blogging community who treat blog posts as conversation starters.
                          .-= Alita´s last blog ..Monday Round Up 080210 =-.

                          • At 2010.08.02 19:42, Jenners said:

                            My family and friends will sporadically read my personal blog (especially if they are featured or “it isn’t too long” <—-that from MY HUSBAND!!). My book blog? Nada. Nothing. Zero, Zip.
                            .-= Jenners´s last blog ..Review- The Boy Who Harnessed The Wind by William Kamkwamba and Bryan Mealer =-.

                            • At 2010.08.02 21:35, Jennifer said:

                              I wouldn’t let it get to you. I don’t think anyone that I actually know in person really pays much attention to my blog. At first, I was a little bummed that my friends and family weren’t really on board with my newest interest/obsession, but I’ve had to accept it. Luckily, when I talk about it, they play along with me for a little while but I doubt any of them actually read my posts regularly. It’s a little disheartening but then I see comments from all the friendly visitors that do care about what I have to say and I’m happy again.
                              .-= Jennifer´s last blog ..Review- The Year of the Flood =-.

                              • At 2010.08.03 04:51, Lex said:

                                I’m really sorry about that Nat but we are on the same boat. No one I know blogs or reads about book blogs and I find less and less people who are interested in books.

                                I don’t mind and I don’t care. I think it’s more special when somebody you don’t know by name and face suddenly reads what you write then compliment it.
                                .-= Lex´s last blog ..Mortified =-.

                                • At 2010.08.03 12:17, Ti said:

                                  No one from my family reads my blog.
                                  None of my co-workers either because I do not mention it.
                                  No one from book club, although I do mention it to them.

                                  I would agree that 98% of my readers are folks that I will never meet in person. BUT, each year I do manage to meet a handful so perhaps that number will change.

                                  My husband knows of my blog but doesn’t even know the name of it.
                                  .-= Ti´s last blog ..Review &amp Book Tour- Labor Day =-.

                                  • At 2010.08.03 12:38, Dishy said:

                                    Nat, I love this blog though you’re right, I do prefer Curly Wurly. It’s not a criticism of you, or your writing. I’m just not a big reader of modern fiction. I will make a point of checking in more frequently though – I promise. As for Ant’s response, trust me, I understand. John’s the same exact way. It’s like pulling teeth asking him to read a new post, though he’ll surprise me sometimes. I always love that!
                                    .-= Dishy´s last blog ..Big Foot That You =-.

                                    • At 2010.08.03 15:18, Patty said:

                                      I totally agree with you…I am shocked that family and friends are not gasping at every word I write on my blog…but…I don’t think that they do. My husband is a huge fan…and loves what I write about so…I shall keep on blogging!!!
                                      .-= Patty´s last blog ..Steamy Summer Reading =-.

                                      • At 2010.08.04 12:54, that girl said:

                                        I have so many different blogs, and I think everyone that I tell must think that I have a problem. I had one that was password-protected for years and years, but then I went to the anonymous-post-anything-I-want route and that other one got neglected for a while. At this point, I think only my MIL reads it… maybe.

                                        I tend to lose my audience when life consumes me and I just don’t have time to write. My stats tell me that random strangers visit particular posts, but it’s rare that I get comments. Now I don’t think anyone is reading any of my blogs, except the hubby… when he gets bored… and he hears me typing something.

                                        Like Dishy, I prefer CWG but I try to check in and see what you are up to over here from time to time. (Both are in my RSS. :))
                                        .-= that girl´s last blog ..Sadness =-.

                                        • At 2010.08.06 16:02, Amy said:

                                          I know what you mean – I went right to book blogging, and didn’t tell family or friends about it for the longest time, but when I did… no one cared enough to visit anyway! The boy I was seeing didn’t care, my parents and siblings think I’m ridiculous, and to be honest, it is such a huge part of me now that it seems weird that no one I love in real life thinks it is worthwhile enough to visit! I’m really glad I’m not alone on this!
                                          .-= Amy´s last blog ..Review- Sisters Red by Jackson Pearce =-.

                                          • At 2010.08.06 20:29, Christy said:

                                            I started my blog last November so I still have some family readers. My parents read it and my older sister. I also have a cousin who reads my blog regularly. Of course with all of these relatives, I would often have book-related conversations anyway, even before I had a blog. Mostly, though it’s other bloggers and when I think of my audience, I’m usually picturing that group. Like Care, I sometimes forget that family members read my blog.
                                            .-= Christy´s last blog ..Blood Cross by Faith Hunter =-.

                                            • At 2010.08.07 08:37, Beth F said:

                                              I think I have two friends who stop by my blog maybe once a quarter! That’s okay with me, though. My husband is a fan of my weekly photo and that’s about it.
                                              .-= Beth F´s last blog ..Weekend Cooking- Review- Fresh Fruit Desserts by Sheryl and Mel London =-.

                                              • At 2010.08.10 23:50, joemmama said:

                                                I have a few readers but I have not met most of them. I don’t think my sister reads it, and I know my husband and kids don’t….sigh

                                                • At 2010.08.13 11:47, Kerry said:

                                                  No, I feel the same way. My mom and aunt read regularly, but other than that, it’s mostly strangers (whose support I fully appreciate!). That said, I’m always shocked when my fiance has actually seen a post, and disappointed that he doesn’t read more often.
                                                  .-= Kerry´s last blog ..Great Photo Friday! =-.

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